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May 25Liked by Dr Sharon Blackie

As often happens, I have listened to this as the perfect time. I am undergoing a big health challenge in my early fifties. Hearing that two of my favourite elderwomen had their own in the same decade has filled me with hope and confidence. Thank you.

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Mar 17Liked by Dr Sharon Blackie

Oh My! I've enjoyed this conversation regarding making friends with Death ... and Christa is absolutely DELICIOUS!

At my age I do not fear death, I fear pain ... for pain separates me from my Soul and Spirit! Death has always been a Mystery for me ... in this as well as in past lifetimes.

For the Consensus the assumption has been that Death is bad.

What's wrong with dying? I think we have been geared, we've been conditioned, to believe that it's bad, that death is a failure, and that if you die you somehow have failed -- unless you live to be ... well, very, very old. Even then, people treat it as a failure.

As an aside: When I was renovating my bedroom the contractor asked me if I wished to have mirrored sliding closet doors? My response was ... NO! Why would I wish to watch myself decompose?

My body is a vehicle. That's all it is. It's an illusion. It's made up of light and sound that is dense enough to be called a body. I call it a 'Meat Suit'.

Well, you're just a three-dimensional illusion, and that body of yours is a vehicle. Now how would you feel about getting an automobile assigned to you at birth, but you could never get rid of it? You had to keep that same automobile ... from birth!? Think back to the first automobile you had. How would you feel about still having to drive that? ....

Well, similarly, death is a process of turning in the vehicle, and saying, "I'm done with this vehicle. I'm ready either to move on without a vehicle or to get another one."

Admittedly, you might not want to do it now or next week or next year or whatever, but sometime you're going to want to. You can program to be healthy and to live as long as you desire, to live to be as old as you desire to be, but eventually indeed you will want to die and be ready to die and be eager to do so. Truthfully, it is not inevitable as a "rule" or a "law," but it is something I think you will desire ... someday.

Also, there is the power of belief. You have been so conditioned to believe that you have to die at a certain age. Some people have a belief that they're going to die at 50 because their mother, father, brother, and sister all died at age 50, "so I'm going to die at age 50." And many times they do. Others feel that "once I retire and the old ticker stops working so well, you know, there's not much use in living."

I believe that death ultimately is the healer, as it is the ultimate end of your pain, the ultimate end of your fear, the ultimate end of your frustration in life. There have been times in my Life that have been so painful that I harbored pain pills so as to orchestrate my own death. Time and time again I had to throw them out because they were well past their expiration date! Eventually I will 'choose' to discard this body.

That discarding is the process called death. Some choose to do it with their eyes closed and pretend they can't see what's going on. Others choose to do it with their eyes open, and therefore more consciously select their death. My Mother created a stroke at the age of 95 ... Dad had died at 94 and she was alone ... and miserable ... she did not want to live. She asked me to help her die. I would not ... there are laws in America that punished assisted suicide. Frankly, I think we treat our pets more humanely than we treat our Elders!

When you decide to die -- by whatever means, early or late in your life -- what happens is you slip out of your body, much as you would slip out of a garment at night, and let it fall to the ground and seem lifeless around you. But you, you as the spark of consciousness that you are, are still alive, still vibrant, still reaching. What do you see before you? I see the Mystery ... a New Paradigm, A New Learning and Discovering Process! I 'Believe' that consciousness NEVER dies.

A most glorious light, and that light attracts you, and that light draws you to it, and you want to reach for that light. You stretch for it, and at a certain point as you are reaching, it draws you in. As you are drawn, you realize how much you are loved by what I call God/Goddess/All That Is, and how capable you are of loving. It is toward this love, this love and light that is God, that you are so drawn.

Would I ever wish to come back to Earth School? For myself ... hell No! Some do ... so that after you go through the light, and have this most glorious of celebrations, and then take a bit of a rest, perhaps reflect on your Life and its lessons ... I think you go into this wondrous somnambulistic state, half-awake, half- asleep. When you awaken, you look at your life, and you look it over, and review it, to see what you've done and what you've accomplished -- not in a judgmental way, not in a harsh way, but just in an evaluative way.

Then you decide. You see, this power of choice is effective not only in your physical world, but in the world beyond. You decide: Do you want to come back into physical form or do you not? Are you most suited to learn by re-entering this density that you call physicalness, or are you most suited to learn without it?

The choice very clearly is yours. There is no referee; there's no judge. There's no one there saying, "Ah ..." No. I think we are the one who decides. At times it would seem almost better if someone else did make those choices and decisions, because we are much harsher on ourselves than anyone else would be. However, it is always us who chooses and decides.

When we die we leave our body behind. We go out of body, and it is a terrifying experience because we believe it is, because we have been conditioned to believe it is, because we get close to that brink, and we get scared. What if it's not there? What if there isn't a heaven? What if there isn't a God? What if the existentialists are right, and our body just rots in the ground, and we go into some sort of oblivion?

You're born in trauma, and when we are born, we are amazed that we are confined to this tiny body that doesn't even work! ...... And we may wonder, "Did I sign up for this?" ......

Then you make it work. "All right, if this is what I have, I'd better roll up the old sleeves here and get this body to grow and to function and to be able to walk and talk and do both those things all at the same time!" Then you go on and do other things more sophisticatedly. Then you reach that point of death when you're finally going to be liberated from this body, and you say,

"Whoa! Wait a minute! Do I really have to be free of it?"

So when you die, many people "faint." It just sort of goes to black, yes? Well, very quickly you revive. It lasts whatever length of Earth time. It's outside of time by that point. But then you revive, and you are drawn to a tunnel of light.

At the other end of that tunnel is everybody you want to have be there ... all the relatives whom you miss, the ones who died before you ... none of the ones you don't care for. ...

And since consciousness is multi-dimensional, all those people who are still alive that you would like to have there are there, also. So your kids, your friends, all the ones you left behind are there. It's a huge celebration, a huge party!

Now some who have a Fundamentalist belief and have fears of maybe going to hell will take a little sidestep, and they'll go sliding down toward hell? They'll get right to the edge, and they'll teeter on the edge, but alas, nobody ever goes! ..

So you go into heaven. You go into this wonderful place that is this huge celebration with everybody you want to be there ... including historical people you always wanted to meet.

Everyone is there coming to greet you.

You go through this grand celebration, and then you go to sleep. You go into a somnambulistic state that can last in Earth time a few minutes, a few hours, a few years, a few decades. It is like that wondrous period when you wake up in the morning and you get to sleep that extra half-hour-- the time when you are half-awake and half- asleep, where you can just snuggle in when it's chilly, or listen to the birds chirp when it's a beautiful morning. You enter a somnambulism, a floating, wondrous state.

Then you wake up, and you experience the heaven you anticipated.

At a certain point you say, "Is this all there is?" Then the walls fall down, and you get down to the serious work of growing, of reviewing the life you experienced, of putting it in context to the other lifetimes you've experienced, of going to classes. You talk to friends, you get involved in activities, you do all kinds of things in your process of reviewing.

Ultimately you make another decision: Do I want to go back into the physical? Do I want to pick another lifetime? There's a broad array of them out there. You decide: "I want to learn this. I want to learn that. I want to deal with this, that and the other. That one will do. That lifetime. I'll take that one." Then you'll create and put the arrangements together to thus re-enter into physical incarnation.

Or you'll decide: "No, I'm done. I don't need to do any more physical lifetimes. I'm not done growing, but I've learned everything that I can learn or want to learn from the Physical Plane."

Two statements: can learn and want to learn. "So I'm going to do my growth without body now, and therefore I'm going to move on."

That's what I think the death experience is like.

P.S. I had a client with Dementia whose children placed him in a Senior Facility called Aegis here in America. I was a locked section that was (in my opinion) a NIGHTMARE! Thus I had a number of experiences with people dying ... stopping eating to escape this prison. I think these warehouses for the Elders are inhumane!

Thank you for this talk Sharon ... I Bless and thank Christa for her resonance and light ... truly a delight,

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